TransDate (8.6/10) comes out ahead of OkCupid (7.6/10) overall, mainly on discretion and safety. Go TransDate if you want discretion and safety; pick OkCupid if the biggest, busiest crowd matters more to you.
TransDate is a solid, honestly middle-of-the-pack pick for what it is: a casual trans-focused hookup site with a free browse and a paid wall for messaging. Its real strength is the targeted audience, which beats hunting on a general app if you're a trans woman, an admirer, or a couple in one of the supported countries. Its real weaknesses are narrow geo coverage, a pushy upsell funnel, and a PPS offer that rebills, so read the terms before you pay. Use the free tier as a scouting run: if it shows real activity near you in BE, AU, CA, SE or UK, the paid step is a reasonable bet. If the free browse looks thin, or you want something serious or card-free, skip it. I rate it a decent option in a repetitive category, not a category leader.
+Genuinely trans-focused audience, not a mainstream site with a trans filter bolted on
+Free account lets you build a profile and browse before paying, so you can scout the local pool first
+Clear casual/hookup positioning, no romance-app bait-and-switch
OkCupid's real strength is its matching model and its inclusivity. The question-and-compatibility system is a genuinely different way to sort people than swipe-only apps, and the wide set of gender and orientation options plus a long LGBTQ+-friendly track record make it one of the more welcoming mainstream platforms. It's free to use, with A-List as an optional upgrade rather than a hard paywall, which is why value holds up at 7.5. Be honest with yourself about fit, though: OkCupid leans toward dating and relationships more than pure hookups, so if a fast, sex-first crowd is all you want, this isn't the sharpest tool for it. I can't independently verify its live user numbers, so the members score reflects a well-supported read of a large mainstream crowd rather than a measured headcount. This listing isn't a paid placement, its position here is my own editorial read. Net: if you want a modern, inclusive app that sorts people by more than a photo, and you're open to dating as much as hooking up, OkCupid is a solid pick. Go in expecting a relationship lean and the usual online-dating scam hygiene.
+Distinctive question-and-compatibility matching, a real alternative to swipe-only apps
+One of the more inclusive mainstream apps, wide gender and orientation options and LGBTQ+-friendly
+Genuinely usable for free, matching and messaging included